Feeling overwhelmed

Both Groomasaurus Gal and I are people who can’t sit still and feel like we have to be doing something productive all the time. Although this usually makes for a good employee, it can also lead to a feeling a being overwhelmed (as well as other things like nervous breakdowns, coronary disease, etc. … but I digress), which is where I am today.

I’m in marketing, and the economy has really put the brakes to my business, so on top of usual life stuff (cooking, grocery shopping, yardwork, etc.) and planning a wedding, I now have to go out and spend even more time looking for new clients for my business. I admit that I’m one of those odd birds who actually likes networking and talking to strangers, but the problem is that it requires soooo much time with no guarantee that anything will come of it. A sage person once said that networking is about giving, not getting, but sometimes don’t you feel like you give so much that on occasion the universe should give something back? Okay, I’ll stop bitching and get to my point.

Wait a minute … did I have a point? Oh, yeah, feeling overwhelmed. I know many brides and grooms also feel the same us. You have full-time jobs, maybe even multiple full-and part-time jobs, household tasks on top of those, family obligations, possibly kids to care for and if there’s time left you squeeze in a movie and some sleep. Not much extra time in there for planning a wedding.

The first thing to remember amongst all this is that such overburdening is mostly self-inflicted. Sure, you can’t really do anything about your boss dumping a stack of work on your desk that will keep you awake all weekend – other than quit, that is. But we all have control over how much stuff we let into our lives and how many tasks we take on. I thought about this and figured I have three paths I can take to de-clutter my life: delegate some tasks (which we have by having a destination wedding); cut some tasks out (still working on that); and let some non-essential things slide (as in “don’t sweat the small stuff). In the meantime, I’m going to go walk my dogs, which I have found is a great way to take your mind off of the ruck of everyday life, and repeat this yoga mantra: Oommmmmmmmmmm.