Comments on: Does “The Bachelor” cheapen marriage? http://groomasaurus.com/2009/05/does-the-bachelor-cheapen-marriage/ Groom Blog / Wedding Blog - wedding planning for grooms Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:13:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: jhkear http://groomasaurus.com/2009/05/does-the-bachelor-cheapen-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-37 jhkear Tue, 02 Jun 2009 05:53:48 +0000 http://groomasaurus.com/?p=115#comment-37 Thanks, Kara, for that insightful reply. I think you make a great point that there's nothing really "real" about reality shows, as they are staged solely to entertain, for the most part. This makes the whole enterprise anything but authentic, and I'm not sure there's anything more authentic than "real" love and marriage. Thanks for reading... Thanks, Kara, for that insightful reply. I think you make a great point that there’s nothing really “real” about reality shows, as they are staged solely to entertain, for the most part. This makes the whole enterprise anything but authentic, and I’m not sure there’s anything more authentic than “real” love and marriage. Thanks for reading…

]]> By: Kara http://groomasaurus.com/2009/05/does-the-bachelor-cheapen-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Kara Sun, 31 May 2009 22:18:54 +0000 http://groomasaurus.com/?p=115#comment-34 I have found that these issues of "one upping" another person have always existed, but just carried out under different institutions or practices. I think marriage has been included in this sense of competitiveness in the past and present, but now we are witness to these reality shows that highlight this on a more direct scale and almost seem to provide a source for mockery for people who do take marriage and commitment seriously.So, I agree that these shows do miss the mark, but I don't think that is necessarily because our values are changing or that it is just exclusive to this era. I hold The Bachelor with the same esteem I give to other cheap, boring reality shows. I think, if nothing else, your post provided a great opportunity for reevaluation for people(like me) who are about to be married. That the "reality" of marriage is hard work and giving yourself to the other person. Keep up the good posts and my apologies if this was a somewhat inarticulate response! I have found that these issues of “one upping” another person have always existed, but just carried out under different institutions or practices. I think marriage has been included in this sense of competitiveness in the past and present, but now we are witness to these reality shows that highlight this on a more direct scale and almost seem to provide a source for mockery for people who do take marriage and commitment seriously.So, I agree that these shows do miss the mark, but I don’t think that is necessarily because our values are changing or that it is just exclusive to this era.
I hold The Bachelor with the same esteem I give to other cheap, boring reality shows. I think, if nothing else, your post provided a great opportunity for reevaluation for people(like me) who are about to be married. That the “reality” of marriage is hard work and giving yourself to the other person.

Keep up the good posts and my apologies if this was a somewhat inarticulate response!

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