Earlier tonight I was over visiting at The Perfect Bridesmaid blog (which, incidentally, has some great ideas) and happened upon a post that responded to the question if it’s okay to invite the same guests to multiple bridal showers.
Maybe I’m the moron in the room (or blogosphere, as it were), but I had no idea that some brides had more than one shower. I grew up in Ohio, and we’re a fairly undemonstrative crowd, so having multiple showers would be a bit too ostentatious and, dare I say it, too greedy, sort of like asking for multiple birthday parties. On the other hand, it’s certainly a great idea if you can get away with it. But what if every one of us could replacate our favorite holiday as many times as we wished. It would be mass chaos … plus I’d be buying chocolate for Groomasaurus Gal every day and she’d be cranking out pumpkin pies by the truckload (I have a soft spot for Thanksgiving).
It seems like, in some cases, certain brides are the recipients of showers by their mother, friends of their mother, the groom’s mother, the maid of honor, work friends, church friends and, last but certainly not least, their best gay male friend. Now, according to the post on The Perfect Bridesmaid, it’s improper etiquette to invite the same people to each event (although it is proper for the mother of the bride and the bridal party to be present at all showers), cause people feel compelled to bring gifts to each event and you shouldn’t make them feel so compelled.
But doesn’t this all sound like too much brain damage just to get a few more handbags, engraved picture frames and lacy thong underwear (although I have no problems with multiple versions of the latter). I know it’s about sharing this moment – or moments – with all your different groups of friends. But wouldn’t it be more enjoyable if all those different groups got together in one big jamboree and got to know each other better? (And I realize that sometimes families are spread out so you may need to have separate showers in separate states or cities).
Better yet, how about doing a combo bridal and groom shower? Okay, this may be pushing it, but at one time the bachelor party was solely the domain of men until the women felt left out and co-opted our need to behave idiotically and started having bachelorette parties. I guess what I’m saying is that we guys have no special event that we have all to ourselves anymore, and when our bride gets multiple female-only showers plus a bachelorette party, we seem to handle it fine on the outside, but we are secretly keeping track and imagining how many guys-nights-out this would total.
And if this smacks of desperation … well … guilty as charged. And, no, I’m not gunning for my own multiple pairs of lacy thong underwear … I went through that stage years ago 
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